Saturday, December 22, 2012
Keep Calm and Give Luv!
“Christmas doesn't come from a store, maybe Christmas perhaps means a little bit more....”
― Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas
“Christmas is not a time nor a season, but a state of mind. To cherish peace and goodwill, to be plenteous in mercy, is to have the real spirit of Christmas.”
― Calvin Coolidge
“My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. Come to think of it, why do we have to wait for Christmas to do that?”
― Bob Hope
“Christmas is a necessity. There has to be at least one day of the year to remind us that we're here for something else besides ourselves."
~ (1912-1992), American newscaster. ”
― Eric Sevareid
Recently, I saw a blog post from one of the sites that I follow and a mother asked the question: "What can I get my children for Christmas since we have very little money?" She went on to say that there had been some issue with their truck being stolen with some money that they had saved up inside of the truck. This mother was worried that she had nothing to give her children.
I'm a mother of four children ranging in age from 8-14. Since they have been born I have raised them to understand what I believe the meaning of Christmas to be: giving luv and giving gifts from the heart. I have only ever bought my children three gifts (no electronics) each and there have been some years when they didn't even get that many.
When we were going through our divorce a few years ago, there were times when all we could do in our house was give luv: we created family traditions and thought of creative ways to show each other how much we luv'd them and the people in our lives. This year for Christmas, my children baked cookies and gave them as gifts to all of their friends and teachers along with holiday cards and hand written notes about how much their friends mean to them.
The above quote about Christmas being a state of mind, I think, is perfect to drive home the point that Christmas really isn't about how much money we need to spend on people to show them that we luv and value them. It's sad to me that we have made what should be a time of celebrating the value and luv that we have for each other into a time of superficiality and commercialism. It amazes me how much stress we create in our lives because we don't have the money to buy friends and family lavish gifts. Parents go into debt each year trying to buy their kids everything that their kids ask for including expensive electronic gadgets that cost more than some families utility bills. In tough economic times like the ones we're in who can afford to do that?
I do hope that for those of us who celebrate Christmas, we will make this a time of simply giving that part of ourselves that money can't buy and spreading kindness. The world is hurting right now and this is the perfect time of year to heal yourself and thus do your part to heal the world. No matter what religion you are or what your faith is, whether you celebrate Christmas or not, you can still be a part of the celebration of luv. Take time to encourage someone you know has been having a tough time. Kind words are often so much more valuable than material things. Tell someone how beautiful, amazing, and talented they are. If you have a particular skill, offer to share your skill and help someone for free who could use your services.
There are so many things that we can give to uplift someone and encourage them in the name of luv. My advice to the mother who asked what to get her children for Christmas is to instill in them a sense of worth. Tell them how amazing they are. Write them a note and tell them how much you luv and value them. Bake some cookies, pop some popcorn and watch movies. One thing I have learned on this journey of motherhood is that once the toys are all broken and the electronics no longer work children will always remember the time they spent with you and how you made them feel! So will everyone else!