Thursday, October 15, 2009
In the beginning...
OK, I have been trying to write this blog for so long it seems and have never been able to decide what to write. I mean, I know what I want to say but just trying to figure out how to say it and what the potential readers want to read has been a bit daunting. I have come to the conclusion that I am over thinking this thing WAAAAY too much. So today I decided to just start. I decided that procrastination was no longer an option and that I would start TODAY what I have been dreaming of doing.
I intend for this blog to serve as encouragement and inspiration to its readers. I initially was planning to target women and let this serve as place to come for a daily word of encouragement and to share and get support from others who may be "going through". But as I started to write I just decided to let what the spirit had deposited in my heart come out and not try to script this thing. As I write I realize that anyone could benefit from the posts. So here it is. What I have been thinking and dreaming about for long time.
Please understand that I am doing this thing by myself right now and I don't know the first thing about Html codes, blog jargon(I'm learning etiquette), settings, layouts or the like but I am a researcher and a quick learner. So this blog is in its beginning stages but as I stated before I just wanted to start. What I learn will be reflected in the design and content of this blog so please be patient with me. In the meantime know that the content is real and from my heart.
Eating my dessert first
Eat My Dessert First is something that I actually DO! I don't remember when I started doing it all I know is I seem to have always done it. I never planned it to be a blog or a book(in the works) or anything of the sort its just something I do. I never intended it to become what it has and in the beginning there was logic behind it. You see, although I can EAT I am a picky eater and often get full very quickly. At the end of a meal I never had room (as most of us don't) for dessert. Oh, there were times when I would just stuff it down anyway and of course end up feeling miserable because you have stuffed yourself and you don't want to move. I figured there had to be a better way.
I just started eating my dessert first. I figured I could always take my meal home but how do you take a brownie topped with ice cream and loads of hot fudge, caramel and nuts home and save it for the next day? Exactly!! Solution? Eat my dessert first!
Oh, you should see the stares and looks of wonder I get when people see me eat dessert at the start of a meal. The servers are both amazed and amused at the thought of serving it first and give me high fives or words of "oooh, I like that" or something to that effect. My girlfriends just laugh and say that it goes right along with my personality and think that of course I would do something like that(you would have to know me). They too would soon try my strategy for have both a meal AND dessert.
Now here is where the fun starts. As I stated before I can eat. Me and my girlfriends (and I'm sure you and yours) often go out for dinner just to have a girls night out. And I, of course, would always eat my dessert first. Apparently I seemed to be having so much fun with this that they too would try it. We would all be sitting at the table eating dessert and having a fabulous time sharing all that was going on in our lives. There was something about eating fabulous desserts and having girlfriend time that was therapeutic for us. We would laugh and sometimes cry but we always left feeling better and closer to each other than ever.
This became a ritual for us: getting together whenever one (or all) of us was having some "issues" and "working through" them over dessert. And maybe a meal too but after dessert of course. My friends often tease me that whenever one of them calls me and wants to talk I say " lets go get a pie" and talk.
Eat My Dessert First has become a concept for me and for the people that I coach through the the issues of life. It symbolizes taking the time to enjoy life first because the problems of life will always be there. When we start our day we tend to start by thinking about all of the problems and issues that we have going on in our lives. Some of us jump out of bed in the morning dreading the day because we are already focused on the problems that we face and wondering how we are going to get through the day. We wake up looking forward to the end and never take the time to think about the wonderful things that the day holds for us.
The idea: Take time first to do something wonderful for yourself. Before you start to focus on the issues that face you "Eat your dessert first" Get up a little earlier and listen to some music and of course DANCE! Meditate. Have fun with your children. Make love to your spouse. Take a bath with candles (most of us do this at the end of the day but why not try it in the morning and go into your day relaxed) Do something that will nourish your soul and your body. Your spirit will thank you for it.